When You Get Comfortable...

To My Future Kids,

Never get comfortable. I don't mean you shouldn't curl up in your favorite chair and read your favorite book, kind of comfortable or the kind of comfy you feel when you have found the most perfect spot on the bed with the covers bundled around you just right. I mean with life, don't get comfortable. When you're comfortable, you will be shocked by change. You will be wounded by actions you don't expect and you will fall into a sadness that would otherwise be replaced with wonder. Not being comfortable doesn't have to mean being uncomfortable, though. It means you are always aware that things could change. As soon as you feel as though something is solid, rock solid, it might change. Don't be alarmed by that, either. It's probably good. And if it's not good, make it good. There will times when people surprise you - and that's because you got comfortable. I don't mean that you shouldn't trust because if someone earns your trust you give it to them and you cherish it and don't you ever break it. But don't make that a reason to get too comfortable. Always know that things could change. Change. Change. Change. Life will happen, people will disappoint you. You will lose people along the way and you will be a better person because of the mark they left on your life and because of the marks you didn't let them leave on your life. Before that though, it will feel like a knife went through your heart but that goes away. The pain won't stay; the memories will never leave but each day, you'll get stronger and you'll come to your senses. It hurts. It sucks. It makes you regret but don't ever, ever regret. Do not settle for anything less than what you deserve...you deserve more than anyone could give you, but there's a difference in someone giving you their all and giving you what they think will satisfy you. You know what's best for you. If you make decisions and you find out that someone thinks it's the wrong one, that's okay. Trust yourself. If you find out that someone you thought supported you but never really did thinks you made mistakes, use that to fuel your fire. Prove them wrong. Make them realize that you are fierce. Never let someone walk into your life and become one of your top priorities if they only make you an option. It is when you let this happen that you'll get comfortable being an option, and when someone decides you're not an important option anymore, you'll find yourself not knowing where to turn. Don't let it get this far.

But if you do, you WILL be okay. Definitely okay. Because you're stronger than you think and you are not easily broken.

You are strong. You are important. You are valuable. You are unique. You are an amazing friend. You are not to be taken advantage of. You are solid. You are rich with things money can't buy. You are worthy. You are a child of God.

Trust me. It's in your genes.