Relationship Socialist

Yesterday I was driving to school listening to Ace & TJ, hoping to be some what awake before class started. It was only 7:30ish and I didn't have high hopes, but I tuned in just to see what was going on. Shortly after I started listening, a man called in and began to talk about how both he and his wife had started a diet and exercise program together. He never mentions how overweight or unhealthy they were, but it seemed to imply that they were both pretty out of shape. Apparently, the wife stopped the exercising and dieting but the husband kept it up. He didn't pressure his wife to keep going, he didn't yell at her or become angry, he just kept doing it for himself. He remarked that he felt better, could play with his kids more and was happier over all. Unfortunately, the wife was bitter and began accusing the husband of working out for the wrong reasons; he was going to leave her, there was another woman, etc. The man said that he only wanted his wife happy so he didn't care if she worked out with him, he just wanted to be able to continue his new way of living in peace. But then, as he thought about it more, he said that he wasn't even sure his working out was worth it because it was causing so many problems in the relationship. And then TJ hit the nail on the head... now, I don't listen to ACE&TJ for my desire of philosophical conversation, but the man made a remarkable point: this man's wife was a relationship socialist. What, did he define, is a relationship socialist? It's someone who is in a relationship with another person (romantic, friendship, familial, etc.) and they have to constantly bring the other person down in order to build themselves up. They can't let another person be happy or make the most out of their life because they're too unhappy themselves. So, instead of bettering their own life, they tear down the other person and thus; they are a relationship socialist. Now, I've heard of this kind of person before but it really shocked me to hear it put like this. It's an epidemic, I believe, that's sweeping across relationships everywhere. I can almost attribute the demise of every bad relationship I've been a apart of to a relationship socialist. It's something to think about, no? I wonder if these Relationship Socialists realize who they are and what they're doing, because if they don't figure it out, they're destined to meet someone far worse than themselves and they'll end up learning the hard way what it's like to be on the opposite end of that spectrum.